Big thoughts and little hope

This week I have been living in hope; hope that I would win the $35,000,000 offered by Lotto’s Big Wednesday When that hope was dashed I found new hope, from a most unlikely quarter: the American Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. I didn’t know such a publication existed or that there would be sufficient material to sustain it. Clearly there is; the journal has been going for 35years and addresses such scholarly subjects as Marital Disruption as a Stressor, Reliability of the Dyadic Adjustment Scale and the Longitudal Course of Marital Stability. And here I was just looking for something on vibrators! But what gave me hope was an article by our very own (Canterbury University) Dr Alice Boyes. The aptly named Dr Boyes found that whereas a slightly overweight woman may evoke a negative reaction in their men folk a woman is more forgiving and don’t see a man’s weight as an impediment to a full and loving relationship. Now, that is very considerate of you women. Good on you for taking a realist view and giving we slightly rotund individuals hope that you are not soon about to walk out on us leaving us to our KFC and sausage rolls. Having said that, weight didn’t figure prominently for women in the list of characteristics that make up a good relationship. It only scrapes into the top 10. For your interest, Dr Boyes’ list in ranking order is: Warmth/trustworthiness: understanding, supportive, kind, good listener, sensitive, considerate. Attractiveness/vitality: sexy, nice body, attractive appearance, good lover, outgoing, adventurous. Status/resources: successful, nice house, financially secure, dresses well, good job. Having published that list, I am now in terror of finding how many of those characteristics my wife thinks I offer. I can only…hope.


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